Most married people are not naïve enough to believe they know everything about their spouse. It is easy, however, to believe you know your partner pretty well. Shocking doesn’t adequately describe the compression in your chest when you discover your spouse has a secret, a BIG secret, that is affecting his spirituality, employment, children and you.
My husband’s secret is pornography… an addiction that has been festering in him for over twenty-five years.
This is the first marital problem we’ve encountered where I didn’t feel like I could call my best friend or older sister for advice. It isn’t really my secret to tell. Although I would much rather counsel with people I love, I will respect my husband’s privacy until he is willing to share.
In the meantime, I will attend the 12-step support group, and if I still need to get things off my chest, I will blog. If just one thing I say helps just one other person, then maybe THE SECRET will also bring some good.