Becoming Personal


One idea many addicts justify behavior with is, “It isn’t personal.”

Since physical intimacy in a relationship is personal… VERY PERSONAL… this is how a partners pornagraphy addiction becomes personal:

– when the addicts initiation of physical intimacy with his partner is consistently low because he is frequently satisfying himself.

– when the addict rejects physical intimacy invitations from his partner because he recently satisfied himself in the bathroom.

– when the addict can no longer be aroused by human interaction with his partner and invites digital partners into the bedroom.


Father’s Day Fantasies (Rated PG for Sexual Innuendos and Vocabulary)


This year for Father’s Day I gave my husband what almost every husband always wants. Let me go back…

This spring I discovered my husband was addicted to pornagraphy. He is in recovery, attending group twice a week, and he has told me his sobriety date…

Since he has been sober, his longevity in our bedroom playtime has decreased a little. I believe this is because he is not master-bating like he used to. The truth is, as long as we are both satisfied, I don’t see this as a problem.

Father’s Day morning when I surprised him, he was very pleased, but for the first time in weeks his longevity was more like it used to be. I know there are many physical or emotional reasons he could last longer. I, however, began to panic. Did he slip and not tell me? Is he struggling in his recovery? Is he too afraid to tell me?

I don’t know the answers to any of these questions, but I do know that these kinds of doubts are driving me iNsAnE!

Is it possible to ask for reassurance without hurting his feelings?
Is this a ‘let go and let God’ thing?